long distince friendship
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long distince friendship
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:13am |
I have a very close guy friend that lives 7 hours away. We talk quite alot, and when he is here (his family lives here, so he comes home most holidays and sometimes a week at a time), we "hook up". We can talk about everything and not feel selfconcious about it. We have discussed past relationships, family(I am very close to his family), jobs, life decisions, everything. This man is my soulmate. We have a deep love for eachother. For a while I was the one calling him every week, then we decided to just cool it for a while because there was a lot of sex involved in our phone conversations and said he wanted to try and "be good". So I respected his decision and stopped calling. Then after a couple of months, he called me to catch up, and now he is the one calling me every week. Don't get me wrong I love talking to this man, but he is confusing me. Does he want me or doesn't he? I got the whole "I love you, but, I'm not in love with you" thing a long time ago. I suggested going to see him for a weekend, and he wasn't all about that, so I dropped it. I know him, and there isn't anyone else in his life right now, so it isn't that he doesn't want me to see what actually goes on there, I think he just doesn't want to take a chance of crossing some imaginary line. I would love to see our love and friendship grow into something more permanent, but I'm not holding my breath.

'I would love to see our love and friendship grow into something more permanent'
But I think he doesn't.
'Does he want me or doesn't he?'
Why not ask him? If you two are so close you should be able to talk this through. If he freaks out or backs away then you know you should find someone who wants a real relationship.