Long term relationship

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Registered: 06-22-2008
Long term relationship
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Sun, 06-22-2008 - 6:12pm
My boyfriend relocated across country to Las Vegas. I was supposed to follow him after my divorce. Well I got my divorce and a week later as I was packing up and getting rid of my belongings, he sent me an email basically dumping me. Now he won't speak to me and I really am confused as to what is going on. We were not arguing at the time, in fact we hardly ever argue. The only thing that I know is that he wasn't happy because when something went wrong I was making him feel guilty. We were together for 9 years, so I don't just want to give up. I've been emailing him to try to get him to talk to me to no avail.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 7:23pm
You were together 9 years? How long were you separated from your husband before you got the divorce? That seems like an awful long time, I hate to assume you were having an affair but if that's the case maybe being an affair was what your boyfriend really wanted and when reality hit, he got going. Can you be more specific about what was bothering him?
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Registered: 06-22-2008
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 7:49pm

My husband and I were seperated for 9 years because I could not afford a lawyer and he didn't want a divorce.


No, my boyfriend and I have talked about getting married. I don't know anymore specifics, because he refuses to answer my emails.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 10:07pm

Welcome to the board smooch64,


Sorry you are going through this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2008
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 10:17pm
I don't want to get hurt again by him or any other man. I'm going through all sorts of moods right now. Today I am angry.
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Registered: 03-01-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 12:09pm

First of all, stop emailing him.


He may have met someone out there.


He may have freaked out because now you are (truly) available, and about to move there.

 

 

 

 

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 1:24pm
He called
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 2:42pm

Some people lie to themselves.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 9:54pm
It's been 3 weeks now and I'm tired of grieving already. I need a break.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 10:34pm

I hate to tell you but 3 weeks for a 9 yr relationship and considering the way he broke it off isn't long enough to completely heal.


Sorry you are going through this.





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