longdistance cheater 8 mo. in

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Registered: 07-22-2004
longdistance cheater 8 mo. in
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 2:40am
ok, he is from and is living in europe now. i have only seen him 4 times in the last 8 months. he left 3 weeks ago and i cheated on him with another non-available person - special-ops military. should i tell him? i know it is because he is emotionally unavailable to me, but i feel guilty. now i have a "thing" for this other guy. what to do, what to do?
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 2:57am
i guess i should also point out that since we slept together last october that neither one of us has been with another person. we shared a taxi one day and when we looked at each other - i had to catch my breath. since that cab ride we have been a couple. he left last december and here i am. now i can't even trust myself.

i put myself in this situation with this guy that i have known for 4 months. i like it because he gives me constant attention - follows me around, stares, (ok, he sounds like a stalker, but i think i intimidate him) he's sweet - well he was until the other night. i had to much to drink, we went for a swim, i thought i would just lie down for a minute - yeah, right. that's when it gets a little hazy - what's crazy is i didn't even kiss this guy. now i want to do it again, because, if i am going to do something i am going to do it right - not to mention it has been a rough year.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 3:52am
You say your bf is emotionally unavailable and you've had a rough year, you were drunk and you use those as justification for cheating on him and wanting to do it again. Do your bf a favour and let him go to find someone who's more ready to have a serious relationship. Long distance is hard enough without knowing you can't trust your partner while you're away.

Methinks you might like to reflect on, and take responsibility for your actions. We all have rough times and ups and downs with our partners. It's not justification to get drunk and cheat.

Does Mr Attentive know you're already in another relationship?

"...now i can't even trust myself..." So don't get involved with anybody till you can. How can anybody trust you if you can't even trust yourself?

"...if i am going to do something i am going to do it right..." Then do the right thing and break up with your LD bf.