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Looking at other women
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 9:01am |
My husband constantly looks at other women whenever we go out anywhere together. I know that noticing other attractive people is normal and I have no issue with that. I mean I do it sometimes, and I don't have a problem with him doing it, but when he is doing it constantly and he is getting hard looking at other women, it really hurts my feelings. I've brought this up to him and he says that he never looks at other women when we go out. Then he 'came clean' and told me that he did (as if I didn't know this!). He actually told me once that the only reason he goes out with me is so he can look at all the hot girls. He masturbates thinking about them - he has actually told me this. I mean we can't even go out to dinner or do anything as a couple and enjoy each other's company because of his behavior. I don't mind him finding other women attractive, but I feel like this is way too much for me. I end up feeling bad about myself after I go out with him. Has anyone else experienced with this kind of behavior? Is this normal guy behavior? I am really starting to feel like I am not pretty enough or good enough for my husband. He tells me that he loves me and that I am his favorite to look at and fantasize about, but I'm having some trouble believing it!
Cacee

I would sit your husband down and tell him that you know most men will check out a lady here and there, but you find it disrespectful of him do it constantly and it needs to stop. If it doesn't then the next time you are going to go out together, (and he still hasn't stopped this behavior) tell him you won't go and don't go. Tell him that if he wants to act like a child (who can't control himself) then you will treat him like a child.
This is not "normal" male behavior. A man should be considerate of how his wife feels and if you have told him that you don't like it, then he should tone back the looking.