Loss of attraction to my husband :-(

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Loss of attraction to my husband :-(
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:49pm
My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years now and we have 2 kids. We've gone through a lot of problems in our marriage but have worked through most of them. Recently I've experienced a loss of attraction to my husband. I don't seem to find him good looking or sexy,etc..

I feel bad because I know that I love him and he loves me but through all the problems we've had I didn't expect this to come up. I'm finding my self now dreaming of other mean and fantasizing and feel guilty. I've suffered of drepession and am not sure if it's my drepression again or what else might be wrong.

He's told me he doesn't feel like he's IN LOVE with me any more and I don't think I'm in love either. I think we love each other but nothing else is there.

Help? what can I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:56pm
Personally, I think intimate, emotional sharing builds closeness and leads to sexual intimacy and attraction and to that 'in love' feeling.

Reading material to consider:

His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr

Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix

Passionate Marriage, David Schnarch


Carrie