a loss for words

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Registered: 03-14-2008
a loss for words
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Fri, 03-14-2008 - 7:09pm

So, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and throught this time their have been periods when we have had to spend a few months long distances away from each other. For example he went to boot camp for about 5 months and we go to schools in neighboring states. I'm currently studying abroad in Europe and I'll be home in about a month, but I am getting so frustrated with him. We have talked about getting married when we are completely done with school, financially secure and own our own house, but every once in a while he will get in these really depressed moods where he will call me to tell me how frustrated he is that we are so far away from each other and that even though he loves me and wants to be with me forever, he still doesn't know exactly what he wants to do with the rest of his life and it seems like it will be so long before we can finally be together. I don't know what to say to him or what to think. I certainly want to be with him forever and I don't want to break up and everytime I ask him if he feels like he needs some time to take on his own to figure out what he wants, he tells me that he doesn't want to do that because he knows he wants to be with me, but he hates that this is so hard and he feels "confused." I don't understand how he keeps contradicting himself. He tells me he wants to be with me forever, but the fact that we're so serious scares him. He says he can't wait to see me and I'm such a huge part of his life and he could never break up with me, yet he says he doesn't know when we're finally going to be able to settle down together and he doesn't even know what he wants to do with the rest of his life. I always ask him what he wants to do about it,but he always claims he doesn't know and apologizes for making me upset. I don't know what to say to him, all I can think of is to tell him that I realize that this is a

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 03-15-2008 - 1:00pm

Welcome to the board nina26_26,


Being apart for some couples is not easy.