lost?

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Registered: 10-15-2007
lost?
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Mon, 10-15-2007 - 2:11pm
I have been married for two years and I find my self unhappy. I have started talking to a ex and we have been hooking up. I am scared because I love my husband and our life but this ex has a big part in my heart. I have loved this man for nearly five years and can not get him out of my head. we took a break and that's when I met my husband and got pregnant and married but since the ex has been in contact with me I have been lying and sneaking out to meet up with him. my husband has suspected something but doesn't know. I want to come clean but the ex and I have never really been in a relationship together, it has always been just a weekly thing! I want to tell him that I really have feelings for him but I don't want to scare him away what if doesn't feel the same- what if I should just let him go and make my marriage work? I don't know what to do? someone help before I screw up
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: michelle2580
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 2:22pm

Welcome to the board michelle2580,


I'm not sure which relationship you want to save..... but it sounds like you are going from the frying pan to the fire.

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In reply to: michelle2580
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 2:28pm
he knows I am married and at first he didn't want to do anything as did I. but when ever we get together it seems like that's what happens. weather I'm in a relationship or if he is. we both have cheated on other partners with each other. but when we were in a relationship together we both were totally faithful. why is it I could love somebody so much that is only in it for sex?
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: michelle2580
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 3:10pm

Welcome to the board michelle2580,


If you want to make your marriage work, you need to end all contact with your ex. Do you know why are you are unhappy in your marriage? Do you think if it was fixed you could be happy? Do you love your husband?


Maybe you should seek individual counseling to help you figure out what to do.

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Registered: 10-15-2007
In reply to: michelle2580
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 3:21pm
I do love my husband, just not the way I used to. there was a time I didn't even think of the ex. but curiosity got the best of me and I called now we talk a couple times a week. I'm not happy because in the begining of our marriage I worked everyday and loved the attention I got from my co-workers and customers(no flirting just grown up talk) now all I do is stay at home with my two children and I don't get to talk to anybody. its killing me I have become depressed and even with medication I know my marriage is over I should not have to work this hard to make it work, not after only two years. My husband doesn't understand what staying home is doing to me he says that I am a bad mom because I want to go back to work. I just get so bored sitting at home. I told my husband that getting a part time job would really help our marriage and make me so much happier. I have even told my ex that if my husband can
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: michelle2580
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 3:59pm

It sounds like you are stressed out and somewhat lonely and need to get out of the house and have some "me" time. This is perfectly normal and does not make you a bad mom. I think you need to sit down and explain to your husband that this is not a want for you but a necessity. Maybe