lost

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Registered: 03-25-2007
lost
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Sun, 03-25-2007 - 9:14pm
My story.. I have this woman, it is wonderful at times, but other not so wonderful. I don't know what it is she is smarter than I am for one, she was abused while younger, and she had low self-esteem. Now, we are in our 20's.. we have been through alot. I have Multiple Sclerosis and everybody has been testing our relationship and wanting it to fell. We have been fighting alot, about nothing it seems like but, she always tells me I am lazy and need to work for this relationship, and anytime I do something for her, it is not the way she likes it so it is wrong. She says some hurtful things at times.... because for me that triggers something, when I was younger people told me I couldn't do anything, and I would never be anything.. so when she says something negative I go on the defensive. We are close to quiting, but neither wants that, we are getting help. but seems never ending.. just need to know is it something she has to deal with or myself or both of us togerther with our problems. Please Help
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: dovescry1
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 12:58pm

Welcome to the board lost,


Since it seems like both of you are carrying your own baggage, I think the best course of action would be individual counseling for both of you as well as couples counseling together.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: dovescry1
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 1:22pm

Hi dovescry1,


I agree with cl-ctara that you both have some baggage...