Lost the Lovin Feeling..

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Registered: 03-24-2004
Lost the Lovin Feeling..
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:30pm
My fiance and I have been together for about two years and until he last five months things hve been fine. Five months ago I was diagnosed with major depession and anxiety disorder. For four of the five months I was being tried on one medicine or another until they found something that worked. That put a lot of stress on our relationship but we made it though. :) Then I went back to work and the stress of the job was back on my shoulders. My family is stressful enough and they began to add to everything. To top it all off our laundry room is being remodled (very slowly) the basement flooded and needs a new sump pump and a new floor, my medication (Paxil CR) has killed my sex drive and a tree fell on the garage during a storm. I fel like pulling my hair out and crying.

I guess the question I have is; can stress be causing this feeling? I know deep in my heart that I love my fiance very much. I know he is the one I want to be with but there are days I just don't feel anything one way or the other. Coud this be stress or something worse?

Any advice would be welcomed.

Peace,

Jen
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 11:57am
Stress can cause anything.... go back to your doctor and talk to him/her about your options.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 12:58pm

well objectively speaking - even without the problem of depression - any of the things you mentioned could cause those feelings. definately go back to the doctor, the meds may need to be adjusted.


you don't mention therapy - have you been combining the meds with therapy? that can be helpful as well.


good luck

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Registered: 05-06-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 2:22pm
I agree that you should go back to your doctor and discuss options. For the depression - are you going to counseling or just taking the meds? It's fine to treat a symptom but to what end? How will you heal if the problem that created the symptom remains? I battled depression with medication only for a few years. I wasn't 'cured' until I got into counseling and realized I had to end my marriage.(abusive) I haven't taken a Zoloft since he moved out. I'm not saying your DF is causing your depression. I think it is important to find out what is though.

With everything you have on your plate right now I think counseling would be very good for you. I also would caution you not to make any major, life altering decisions (getting married or breaking up) until you are on a more even keel. I'd definately look into counseling if I was you.

Good luck to you and keep looking up^, Susan.

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Registered: 05-04-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 4:42pm
omg I didn't need my mood stabilizer after I got divorced from an emotionally abusive jerk, too (he only got physical with me once, it was first and last time). Also, medications like paxil & prozac can have some major sexual side effects. I remember being on Prozac as a teen and I had no O's, no drive, nothing. You do have a lot on your plate so you have a right to be a little stressed but therapy is a good tool to help you get through those rough times. It's not like you have to go forever, just until you are armed with enough confidence to take life on without feeling overwhelmed :) There are some community assistance based programs if you don't have insurance for therapy - they charge on a sliding scale based on what you make.