Lost Trust
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| Sat, 10-09-2004 - 4:06pm |
I did, for one week, try to act a bit diffrent.....which was stupid, because we had the ideal relationship......but it was also the week I moved home from a university I was attending because I missed him so much, and I was PMSing.....but anyways, all his other girl friends, changed everything about themselves to make him stay, and so he now thinks I'm just like them, altough I'm the one that came clean and apologized about it. We are both incredibly honest with each other, even when it hurts, so I don't see how this "breaks his trust"
Anyways, now we are on a "break" until he can trust me again.....does anyone know how I can do this? I miss him so much....we haven't gone a day without talking since we met, and now it's been about 4 days since we've spoken.....I haven't eaten in 4 days either...I really want to start repairing it...but how can I make him miss me without him forgetting me?
Thanks for any help you can offer...:)

Take care of you. Treat yourself the way you want other to treat you. Most people are 'attractive' when they are independent, having their own life, being them, not being clingy, desperate or needy, you are right not to call and continue to talk about it. He has to come to the conclusion on his own that he misses you and wants you in his life. If you become that 'independent' woman that has her own interests, her own schedule instead of merging your life with his, you will be more attractive.
Start journal writing. Vent your feelings on paper, all the hurt, tears, write about everything that is on your mind, everything you want to say to him. Then make a list of all the things you enjoy and start doing them - things you've always enjoyed/new things you ant to try and start doing them - call friends, go to the movies, go to dinner, go shopping... start making your holiday list, start a craft project, makes gifts, get yourself busy.
Since you are having trouble eating, think of simple things - make protein shakes or go to a juice bar and buy them, crackers, soup, tea, Ensure.
Reading material to consider:
How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon
Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse
Self Matters, Phil McGraw
The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz
Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis
Men Are Like Waffles - Women Are Like Spaghetti, Bill & Pam Farrel
All Men are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise, Daylle Deanna Schwartz (not what you think)
My best to you.
Carrie