lousy husband

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Registered: 04-20-2004
lousy husband
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Mon, 05-31-2004 - 8:05pm
hi ladies

My husband and i have been married for 5yrs. We have twin girls who are 3 now. Anyway my problem is my husbands social life. Whenever given the chance he will go out drinkin with the boys from work. The thing is im left home by myself to care for our kids. When he goes out he dosnt bother to phone in fact he turns his phone off or it conveniatly runs out of batteries. Ive told him im not happy and i almost left him last week and everytime he promeses that he will change.(im not asking for alot just a husband who wants to come home after work to see his wife and kids). Ive told him when he goes out it makes me feel so empty inside like he dosnt care about me. I mean if he loved me he would want to spend time with me right? not the guys from work! Anyway tonite it is after eight and he still is not home not phoned yet. So i have to asume hes out drinkin again. The thing is i love him and he could be a good husband but how to make him realize what he has without throwing it all away. I mean when i comes home i love him the kids love him he has everything here so i dont understand what is sooo great about going out drinkin. How can i make him change and be the kind of man me and the kids need and deserve.

Thanks for any advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-25-2004
In reply to: bazie
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 8:25pm
Do you think he might have a drinking problem? If so I suggest you get counseling for yourself to figure out what to do with this. Then you will have to work on it together.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: bazie
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 1:41pm

you can't "make him" into anything, he is who he is. all you can do is try and work out some acceptable guidelines and compromises in your marriage.


you don't say how often he goes out on his own (with the guys)? are you concerned