Love.

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Registered: 04-18-2006
Love.
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Tue, 04-03-2007 - 2:52pm

Somtimes he's told me when he's drunk that he is falling in love with me, loves being with me, or even loves me (together for 8 months). Then when he's sober he barely remembers. He also said that he doesn't know what love is, he might have been in love before, but it doesn't last. He's told me that when we first started dating he liked everything about me, but didn't know how to feel. He has also asked himself why he is still single at 40.

I feel like he is in love with me...we are very attracted to each other, have overcome problems, and get along great.

I'm thinking of telling him he has until our one year anniversary to figure out what love is, is that fair? I don't want to set myself up for dissapointment--I've heard about people who remain "in like," but from his behavior towards me it seems like he's in love.

I don't understand!

Edited 4/3/2007 2:58 pm ET by whitelyon1981




Edited 4/3/2007 3:36 pm ET by whitelyon1981
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In reply to: whitelyon1981
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 4:34pm

Welcome to the board whitelyon1981,


It sounds like he could have a drinking problem since you said there have been several eposides where he will say he loves you and then doesn't remember it afterwards. Either that or he is lying.


You have to decide how long you are willing to wait for him to figure this out. If a year sounds good to you, than go for that.

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In reply to: whitelyon1981
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 4:39pm
I just think it's so weird that a 40 year old man doesn't know what love is, and I think he's really being honest.
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In reply to: whitelyon1981
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 11:40am
Maybe he has some underlying issues or is afraid of being hurt or something.

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