For the love of God, someone help!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2003
For the love of God, someone help!!!!
8
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 11:53am

Good Morning!


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 1:16pm

Welcome to the board kaybee1181,


Well I think the most important thing for now is to figure out if you are pregnant or not. Have you taken a pregnancy test?


Even though he doesn't want child right now if you were planning things has he indicated how he would feel if you did become pregnant?


If you are pregnant, what do you plan to do about it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2006
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 2:05pm

First, you are only 27. You still have plenty of time to have babies. Second, you have only been with your bf for 6 months. That’s not at all long enough time for you to even know each other really well yet let alone committing to spend a lifetime together. If you think you might be pregnant, take a test before you start worrying about it.

To be honest, your post appears to be all about what you want. A relationship is about compromise, it’s not about what one person wants. You can’t just get angry and bitter because he doesn’t want the same things as you do or are not ready at the same time as you are. You can’t expect him to conform to your timeline, just like he can’t expect you to conform to his. If there is a significant disconnect, then you are not right for each other.

Please take a moment to relax and enjoy your life and your relationship with your bf, instead of letting a biological clock and arbitrary timeline to dictate what your life should be.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2008
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 3:28pm

Hi Kaybee,
I would like to say that I went through EXACTLY what you are going through, with the exception that I had been dating my boyfriend for almost 2yrs. when i found out I was pregnant. I was 25 at the time and we were in the same kind of relationship where we kinda talked about the future in a vague sense but we were just content to be together and have a good time (my significant other couldn't even say the word "married" without cringing.) Anyways, I found out I was pregnant and I was mortified but I decided to sit down and talk to him (not in a vague sense but in a very real sense) and I was very re leaved when the shock wore off he was great about it....he enjoyed every moment of my pregnancy and he is now a great dad and we decided to get married a couple of months after our daughter was born.

Okay, so what I learned was that people can really surprise when they are faced with the reality life and decisions. I think our daughter was a blessing from God and we chose to take the opportunity to move on with our lives and be great parents. I am not saying that you have to do the same but what I am saying is be honest with him and work it out together.
Hope this helps. Let us know how it goes.

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2003
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 4:10pm

I went home over lunch and took my 4th pregnancy test, as the dr. office told me to wait a couple of days.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 4:28pm
If you don't want to get an abortion don't do it. Just because he may not be ready to be a father does mean you have to end this pregnancy. This is not a decision to make lightly. I know I personally could never even be with a man that would even suggest that I get an abortion. For me anyway, it wouldn't be an option. Maybe you can get a hotel room for a few nights to give you some time to figure out what you want to do.
Avatar for eemommy2002
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 3:00pm

Hi there Kaybee,


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 3:57pm

You guys have hit the nail on the head.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 4:18pm

Welcome to the board kaybee1181,


How did things work out for you?





angels