In Love with His Best Friend
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In Love with His Best Friend
| Tue, 04-24-2007 - 4:36pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years. I have no interest in getting married that is why we aren't married, but we have been living with me for eight years (I own my own home). We were both 17 when we started going out. We always got along well. He is like my best friend and he supported me while I went to school to get my masters. The thing is that after I finished school I started thinking that maybe he wasn't good for me. He truly loves me and totally respects me, but I just find we are not so compatible anymore and there is no passion. There never was. He is also very irresponsible and cannot pay his bills on time. About a year and a half ago, I was planning on breaking up with him. The place I live was struck by some major flooding and it was stresful for everyone. He helped repair the home and with bills while I was out of work due to the flooding. Due to this, I stuck it out. Then my dad passed away, and he was there for me. Now, a year and a half later i am still with him.
Around the same time, while I was away at a conference, he became friends with a guy from work. When I got back, he introduced me to him. I never believed in love at first sight, but there was an instant connection to this guy. I felt like I knew him forever. I found this man to be very attractive and he had a fabulous personality. I know the feeling was mutual because he did some innocent flirting with me and would always tell me I looked nice. After spending time with him (when he'd come over to hang out), I found that we are very similar and highly compatible. I started developing feelings for him and I could tell he started having feelings for me. I would never cheat and I know he wouldn't do that to his friend. I am just having such a hard time dealing with this and don't know what to do. I have falling in love with him, and although we have never spoken about I believe he has falling in love with me. I can tell by the way he acts around me and he is very considerate and chilvarous. I admit that I was thinking of leaving my boyfriend, but I did not want to go out and look for someone else. I was not looking for anyone. This guy just kind of happened and I am so confused. He is absolutely everything that I want in a man. I'd appreciate any advice. At first i thought it was a crush although, but i have been feeling this way about the man for over six months now. He is all I think about.
Around the same time, while I was away at a conference, he became friends with a guy from work. When I got back, he introduced me to him. I never believed in love at first sight, but there was an instant connection to this guy. I felt like I knew him forever. I found this man to be very attractive and he had a fabulous personality. I know the feeling was mutual because he did some innocent flirting with me and would always tell me I looked nice. After spending time with him (when he'd come over to hang out), I found that we are very similar and highly compatible. I started developing feelings for him and I could tell he started having feelings for me. I would never cheat and I know he wouldn't do that to his friend. I am just having such a hard time dealing with this and don't know what to do. I have falling in love with him, and although we have never spoken about I believe he has falling in love with me. I can tell by the way he acts around me and he is very considerate and chilvarous. I admit that I was thinking of leaving my boyfriend, but I did not want to go out and look for someone else. I was not looking for anyone. This guy just kind of happened and I am so confused. He is absolutely everything that I want in a man. I'd appreciate any advice. At first i thought it was a crush although, but i have been feeling this way about the man for over six months now. He is all I think about.

Welcome to the board mermaidskiss,
Since you have been thinking of breaking up with your bf for over a year and a half, I think you should break up with him. It is not
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