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love life after breast cancer
| Sat, 03-06-2004 - 12:23pm |
I don't believe I have seen this particular problem discussed much. Ten years ago I had a bi-lateral mastectomy. I am now 51 years old , I am single and have found men are not too excited about dating older women in general and then when they find out about my medical history they are really not interested. In case you maybe wondering I am 5'1 1/2" and weigh 107lbs exercise daily and have all my teeth, in other words I am not totally unattractive. I feel its stupid not to bring it up and its not the first words out of my mouth but I am starting to feel like I am really in the "reject" pile. The words that keep haunting me, I suppose are the words of my last husband , warning me that no man will be interested in "that mess". Where to find a nice man to have a casual relationship with seems impossible......anyone?

your ex is a horse's behind.
it doesn't sound to me like you are a "reject" at all - you sound like a lovely, healthy, interesting, fit woman. maybe you are looking in the wrong places? maybe you are sending the wrong message? I don't really know. i am also a cancer survivor BTW, i had ovarian cancer, I am now in the process of getting divorced, and while i have no intention of getting married, i have every intention of eventually dating and finding a "partner".
I don't really have much advice as to where you should find normal men, maybe someone else has better ideas, i just wanted to send you some hugs...
The few I've gotten to know are more interested in a physical relationship....I am totally out of the loop I guess. Anyway , thanks for taking the time to cheer me up.Please stay well and good luck with your single life!
lilhummer