in love with my friend
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in love with my friend
| Mon, 03-31-2008 - 7:12am |
Recently I have posted a post about how I was looking for direction cause I was confused im not sure how to link my post to this so you can see the back story of this new post but the short version is that I need to get over this guy I am in love with so we can be good friends instead of me always taking things wrong way and feeling as though he's leading me on and things like that. Even though the things he says to me I don’t see how im taking it wrong but he always says I do. We have known each other for five years and all this time I have liked him. It took him and I four years to figure out we loved one another, we dated for 6 months until he wanted out cause he didn’t want to talk about things and make it work, we ended things or he did rather in July. We been close every since and to me I feel no difference because I never been without him for all this time. When I mean all this time I mean the five years I have known him its just been us. What I have seen from these replies to my other post is that I need to have closure which I haven't had and if he cant see we are good together and what I bring to a relationship and etc then I must respect myself and stop trying to get back together which is just hurting myself more. He told me the other day he's looking for a girlfriend, I thought I was doing well with just trying to be friends but then he said that and it just all kind of came back. It was like he broke up with me all over again but this time it was more easier to handle then the last. I guess he seriously doesn't want to be with me and I felt like this when we were together at times too. Im not sure how to get over him to the point where I am able to be okay with him having a girlfriend , I know this will take time but im not sure how to go about this, whatever I do I think its working and then something happens which makes it all come back again. I can go on and on writing so much more thoughts and about us but I wont cause I guess basically I know what has to be done im just not sure how to do it and I want to be his friend still and everything we do now its going to change if he gets a girlfriend and even just being friends it'll change and I don’t know just the thought of that hurts and etc. thank you for listening and I hope with this post I hope things that are said will be able to help me like the other post I had up.

Welcome to the board giggles8333,
I couldn't locate your other post, I'm wondering if you posted on a different board or if you changed usernames?
Anyway, closure is something you give yourself. It comes with accepting the situation as it is, not the way we hope it would be.