In love with other man

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Registered: 07-04-2007
In love with other man
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 10:52am
I have been married for 7.5 yrs with two children, ages 5 and 3. I have always been faithful to my husband and never thought of straying before. I have met someone who is eveything I ever wanted - attrative, successful, smart, sexy. He is 5yrs older than I am, and married for less than one year. His marriage was a "spur of the moment" decision based on info from his friends, and he has communicated to them that he is thinking he made a mistake in getting married (this was before we met). Lately we have been talking a lot, we work together so we see each other every day. We IM at night as well. We have talked about how attracted we are to each to each other and that "if only" we met early. We agreed to have no physical contact, but the emotional impact is overwhelming. I am not sure what to do - I am falling in love with him, but don't want to break anyone's heart (my husbands or his wifes). Has anyone ever been in this situation?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 4:14pm

This is a dangerous situation and of course, if it goes, further many hearts will be broken. You have to stop back and take a good look at your marriage. You have two young children. Is there something deeply missing in the marriage for you? Why are you vulnerable now to falling in love with someone else?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 5:18pm
Dr. Shosanna's advice is spot on. This is an emotional affair. There's a link in my siggie to the Emotional Affair board. It's for both sides.

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