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| Fri, 03-20-2009 - 5:28pm |
Okie, I need help with this problem i've been having with this "ex" boyfriend of mine. Technically we are not together but off paper we are together. I just do not understand why he would tell me I'm the love of his life yet he cant give me a simple (i know, BUT am i asking too much) title GIRLFRIEND. When i drop hints about him asking me he said soon , very soon, what the hell is soon? am i suppose to be waiting another year? when i say that he said not that long, please help, am i wasting my time or should i wait for him?

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off paper is like someone is your girlfriend but you know he hasn't ask you to be his girlfriend yet but everybody else knows you're with him
Becoming bf and gf is a JOINT decision - not just his.
You may want to remind him that a relationship takes TWO to make work and one is not at the mercy of the other that way.
If he cant commit "gf" to you now .. but can at a later date called "soon" - then find out exactly WHY it is working that way. Ask for details. See if what he says sounds right or sound to you.
I do not know why he would play mind games u know? because i have told him, im not gonna wait forever and if he cant give me a simple title that i need , im sure someone else will. I may not love him as much as i do this current guy but im sure the next (hoping) will treat me with the respect that i deserve , right?
I am actually completely confused as to what the problem is.
Welcome to the board scorpioaznchix,
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Your reply didn't really help much, so let me try summarizing what I understand to be going on and you tell me if I'm on the right track.
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Scorpio, I don't understand why he's moving in with you if you're not his girlfriend.
This situation makes no sense to me...unless he's just a rent paying flatmate who has no access to your bedroom.
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