love without commiment

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Registered: 03-20-2009
love without commiment
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 5:28pm

Okie, I need help with this problem i've been having with this "ex" boyfriend of mine. Technically we are not together but off paper we are together. I just do not understand why he would tell me I'm the love of his life yet he cant give me a simple (i know, BUT am i asking too much) title GIRLFRIEND. When i drop hints about him asking me he said soon , very soon, what the hell is soon? am i suppose to be waiting another year? when i say that he said not that long, please help, am i wasting my time or should i wait for him?


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Registered: 01-29-2009
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 5:59pm
I'm sorry, perhaps it's because I'm an old fart, but what does your post mean?
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Registered: 03-20-2009
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 6:13pm

off paper is like someone is your girlfriend but you know he hasn't ask you to be his girlfriend yet but everybody else knows you're with him


* Love youself, because you are the only person that can pick yourself up if you fall & never ignores you gut feeling, because it doesnt lie*
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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 6:28pm

Becoming bf and gf is a JOINT decision - not just his.


You may want to remind him that a relationship takes TWO to make work and one is not at the mercy of the other that way.


If he cant commit "gf" to you now .. but can at a later date called "soon" - then find out exactly WHY it is working that way. Ask for details. See if what he says sounds right or sound to you.

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Fri, 03-20-2009 - 6:46pm

I do not know why he would play mind games u know? because i have told him, im not gonna wait forever and if he cant give me a simple title that i need , im sure someone else will. I may not love him as much as i do this current guy but im sure the next (hoping) will treat me with the respect that i deserve , right?


* Love youself, because you are the only person that can pick yourself up if you fall & never ignores you gut feeling, because it doesnt lie*
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Registered: 08-30-2008
Sat, 03-21-2009 - 1:09am

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Registered: 07-28-2007
Sat, 03-21-2009 - 8:09pm

I am actually completely confused as to what the problem is.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 03-21-2009 - 9:42pm

Welcome to the board scorpioaznchix,


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Registered: 01-29-2009
Sat, 03-21-2009 - 9:57pm

Your reply didn't really help much, so let me try summarizing what I understand to be going on and you tell me if I'm on the right track.


You

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 1:13am

Scorpio, I don't understand why he's moving in with you if you're not his girlfriend.

This situation makes no sense to me...unless he's just a rent paying flatmate who has no access to your bedroom.

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:01pm
like i said off paper im his girlfriend, but he hasn't ask me to be his girlfriend, should i just assumed? im his gf?
* Love youself, because you are the only person that can pick yourself up if you fall & never ignores you gut feeling, because it doesnt lie*
* Love youself, because you are the only person that can pick yourself up if you fall & never ignores you gut feeling, because it doesnt lie*

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