Love without sexual attraction?
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Love without sexual attraction?
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 9:24pm |
I have what many may consider to be a stupid question. How can you love someone, want to spend the rest of your life with them as your spouse, and not be in the least bit sexually attracted to them? Is this possible? Does it make sense? How can you spend your life with someone that you know doesn't want to have sex with you? Is it worth it? Please help me, I don't know what to do anymore. Do I stick around and wait for him to want me again some day, or do I cut my losses and leave?

what about marital therapy?
You have to sit down and talk to him and if you both are suffering from weight problems then as a couple you should go to a gym and set goals for one another. In addition to getting healthy and losing weight you will also spend time with each other and you can both be each others support system.
Now also things change alot after kids, we sometimes tend to become more of a mother figure and less of a love goddes and we really truly just need to set a time aside for the "daddy". One night put your kids to bed and try on something sexy, like nice lingerie or try playing a sexy game of truth or dare.
Maybe it is not your body he is not attracted to, maybe you just need to throw in a few unexpected seductrice acts and while his jaw is on the floor, make your move. When men sense a routine in sex then it becomes boring, try getting a babysitter for the night and just have romantic candle lit dinner at a hotel, or rent a room just for the two of you.
Make everynight with him an adventure, be creative and make sure he tells you his fantasies and try to live them out for him. (as long as they are safe, and you feel comfortable) With that said, just enjoy your womanhood and sexuality, be confident in yourself and he will see the bounce in your step.
Tell yourself in the morning, I am a sexual Goddess and I deserve to be loved, to be looked at, to be wanted. Look at yourself as the sexiest woman within 100 miles of yourself, because when you have this attitude it is hard for ANY man NOT to notice.
Good luck and my prayers are with you and your family.