In love with the wrong person

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2011
In love with the wrong person
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 5:54pm

Thanks for your input everyone! Deleted for privacy...

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 12:08am

You have two problems.......and they may or may not be related.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 12:17am
The only thing you can do is remove yourself from this situation. These feelings will NOT go away if you continue to see them daily. You need to find reasons not to see them so much. Start making plans with other friends, and stop texting him out of respect for your best friend. If moving much further away from them is possible you may want to consider doing so. This really is a HUGE train wreck waiting to happen if you pursue this any further and I think you know that.
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Registered: 01-21-2011
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 9:57pm
Break up with the guy you're seeing if it's not working as these other ladies have said. Then back off your friend and her man. You can have fantasies all you'd like, but constructing an imaginary world around someone's happy marriage isn't healthy or natural. Get out of your bad relationship and then start working on building a good one for yourself - stay out of theirs.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 11-22-2011 - 9:28pm

From experience... I will say that your disintegrating relationship is causing your feelings for the "wrong man" to be stronger, or at least more apparent to you. Staying in this relationship is only making you hurt more. It's important that you have said you will not speak to him about your feelings, that is good. Once you cross that line, you can NEVER go back. It will change everything for the worse. The hard part is that you can't magically fall out of love with him, and there is no direct way to solve your problem here. What you can do is focus on making your life the best it can be, and that means getting rid of dead weight that is bringing you down. if your relationship were destined to survive, you wouldn't be in love with someone else. It's time to get that hard part out of the way rather than wasting your life with Mr. Wrong and pining for someone you cannot have. You are stuck in this bad place until you are willing to make changes and move in another direction.