Loveless & Sexless Marriage

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Registered: 07-30-2008
Loveless & Sexless Marriage
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Wed, 07-30-2008 - 6:58pm

Hello everyone,


I'm new here and I'm seeking advice/ opinions. I've been married nearly 25 years but it seems for the past year I've been so lonely and unhappy. I'm 40 years old, my husband 48.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 7:23pm

Welcome to the board southernaccent68,


As nicely as possible, why do you need to be invited to church?

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Registered: 07-30-2008
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 7:47pm

Thank you for your reply.


Well, I feel he should ask me to go. I mean, I believe if he is as religious as he claims he is it looks like he would encourage me to go. I know when I used to go to church I'd invite everyone I possibly could. No, they do not have any types of marriage counseling at the church. But thanks anyway.


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 8:17pm
Have you told him you want to be invited?




angels

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Registered: 07-30-2008
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 11:14pm

Oh yes, several times. But he never made me any answer, didn't seem to care. But it's actually the fact that we don't go anywhere at all. I mean, I'm more than a cook, housekeeper, ect. It bothers me more he makes those rude comments about overweight people and his attitude about it. I'm not dumb; I know he is directing that to me and it does hurt. I mean, us overweight people have feelings too. It certainly does not mean we are lazy slobs. After having 4 children, it is unrealistic to expect one to weigh what they did before the children came. Expecting otherwise is just being ignorant and shallow.But I'm the same person I was before I put the weight on. Life is too short to be unhappy.....


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 12:11am
Sorry he treats you this way.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 5:02am

No, after having four children it is not realistic to expect you to have the same body as you did before them, but you said you are obese - personally, I would be very unhappy if my partner let himself go and became obese.

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 5:39am

It may not be