Loves me, loves me not?

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Registered: 06-08-2011
Loves me, loves me not?
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Sun, 07-17-2011 - 11:12pm

My boyfriend of six months told me he loved me after we had dated three months.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 11:55pm

Justme2011, the most obvious cause would be that he's cooling towards you.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:33am

Three months is too early.

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Registered: 06-08-2011
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 9:15am

I felt three months was early mysel,f but he said it first and then continued saying it without me responding back to him.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 11:36am

I'm sorry to say, IMO, his lack of a response to your question would be a no, he is not feeling the same or he is not sure.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 1:29pm

He said it way too early, which meant what he was feeling was really not love but more in line with infatuation at the 3 month stage. Now after 6 months he is out of that stage and finds those feelings gone and is left with something less that love.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 10:30am

No, you shouldn't have texted him. He is intentionally ignoring you.

I would confront him in person. "I know you don't want to talk about it, but it's really important to me to understand why you won't say 'I love you' anymore. If you feel like maybe you said it too early, I would understand that because I agree. But if something has changed, I really think you should tell me so I know how to proceed."

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 10:58am

I agree with Ollie!

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Registered: 06-08-2011
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 4:26pm

So he was at my house and acting strange again so I decided to confront him about my text.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 10:42am
I am so sorry. I'm glad you had the talk even though it wasn't what you wanted to hear. If he's unsure at 6months, then it's not meant to be.
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Registered: 07-24-2011
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 10:58am
You're looking for confirmation that what he is not saying mean something else besides he does not love you like he use to. It's hard to realize and hard to deal with. You know he was very open before and he's not now so you know the truth deep down. Some men don't want to hurt our feelings so they don't say anything expecting us to end it. End it now for yourself before it gets worse. You sound like a strong person just believe in yourself and be happy