lying and gambling

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Registered: 07-04-2007
lying and gambling
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Sat, 03-31-2012 - 12:30pm

My boyfriend and I recently got an apartment together and have been living together since February. Overall, everything is great. However, he has a gambling problem. In August, he came to me very upset about owing someone $2500, and expressed that gambling was ruining his life, has lost a lot because of it and has prevented him from things he wants like buying a house. We had a very in-depth conversation about how he wanted to stop, and how much grief gambling has caused him. I then, offered to give him a check for the amount under the conditions that he 1. pay me back the full amount by December. 2. NO gambling while he was paying me

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 1:10pm

Hon, you are living with an addict, and every conversation you have about gambling is held with the addiction, not with the man who has it.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 2:58pm

I'm confused.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 4:24pm

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 4:26pm

I'm going to talk with him tonight and tell him he needs to get serious and seek help or I'm going to get serious about leaving the relationship.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 8:15pm

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 8:57am
How did the talk go, mx? I hope you'll keep us updated...

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 9:53am

I responded to you on another board, but I just saw this post. I hope you will follow through with this. You cannot control his addiction, even if he says he is "getting better" he's not "getting better" because he is still gambling. Addicts need therapy, years of it. I think you should seriously consider leaving the relationship even if he does get help. Being in a relationship with an addiction is a very difficult choice.