lying i hate it

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Registered: 07-22-2004
lying i hate it
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:31pm

ok so my husband and i have been married for a month. before that he was married to his high school sweetheart the marriage lasted a year. anyway i asked him a long time ago if he wouldn't have lunch with her. the very next day i called him and he was at lunch with her. as time went on (3yrs) i asked him if he talked to her and the answer was always no or yeah she called about the dog blah blah blah. So then it got to be when i would ask him he would say no i don't talk to her anymore will you stop badgering me and bothering me about it. I knew he was lying to me and I just recently found out. I know that this lie isn't a huge deal but my problem is that when he was lying to me he would put me down and rip me a knew one to cover for himself. He never shares any feelings with me and he just says sorry and then gets mad if I bring it up again. I am not over this. oh I found out about it just on saturday. anyway i am not over it and i don't know how to trust him when he won't talk about it and when i share my feelings on it he is always preoccupied like he will start doing dishes or petting the dog or sorting through the mail well that is what he starts doing those thing is when i bring it up. I was just wondering what you all would do in this situation. We all have exes but damn its been 3 yrs.

thanks
kim

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:36pm
he is still in love with her. you know you deserve better.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:57pm
thats kind of my problem. I don't know what to believe.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:19pm

Welcome to the board kboynton23,


Sorry, I disagree with you....LYING is a HUGE thing in my book.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:25pm
I understand. I feel the same way about lying. My gut is always right and i never follow it. When someone swears up and down they didn't lie and you know they are what do you do. i feel like there are more than phone calls. I don't think he would ever cheat on me but i don't doubt that he hasnt' seen her. I just can't prove it.