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| Wed, 08-04-2004 - 3:19pm |
Now, I am reamrried with a 4 year old son. I am in this marriage only because of my son. Although, my husband is a nice man and good husband and dad, there are some issues between us that we can never get past. I don't feel that I am in love with him and haven't for a long time. He knows if it weren't for my son, I'd be out of here.
Recently, my ex was diagnosed with cancer. I have been at his side since I found out.
He has never remarried, and still has the torch for me, which I was well aware of all these years. The minute we saw each other it is as if we never parted.
My friends tell me I am nuts, because he may die anyway. But, I'd rather have a few years of wonderful happiness than a lifetime of emptiness. My current life is just existing. No real bond other than we are good parents to my son.
What should i do?

Your present husband must feel your rejection. I think if I had a mate who didn't love me and only wanted me to take care of his son, I would feel terrible, so terrible that I would not be able to go on with him. I would probably tell him to go. Maybe you should release your husband from a living hell so that he can find someone to love and love him back.
Your ex needs support and your son needs his father. Hopefully you will be able to deal with his sickness. good luck