Male Friends

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Registered: 02-04-2007
Male Friends
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Fri, 01-25-2008 - 11:00pm

My wife has this male friend. I don't like this relationship she has with him. I know a part of this feeling is my insecurity because I was cheated on by my Ex with a close family member. I don’t let my wife know my insecurities because her Ex was very controlling and didn’t allow her to have male friends. I don’t want to be like that. However, I don’t understand this friendship. I pick friends on same interests and goals in life, but she repeatedly tells me about negative things this guys does. Example he is in the same career as her and he has no job ambition. Happy to just float bye and let his girlfriend worry about finances. Another thing is he is resonantly engaged to long-time girlfriend and he tells my wife he just had an affair on her. Why would you say you want to marry a woman, show this trust/commitment and then do something like that?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: my_privacy
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 12:36am

Welcome to the board my_privacy,


Have you considered counseling?


Is it ‘just friends’ – or emotional infidelity?