Man I love has bad PAST

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Man I love has bad PAST
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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 3:29pm

I was married right after college. I've had a simple sort of a storybook life. I had a good childhood, went to college, met my husband, got a great job, built a NEW house at age 23.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 4:17pm

Hi elfling,


All your questions about the future and what people think will make you crazy. It keeps you out of the moment.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 4:42pm

It seems, based on what you posted, that he has come a long way from his troubled childhood and adversities.


You mentioned concern about your image and what people would think if they knew about his past.

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 4:55pm
We met in Nov 2006....and he didn't move in until April 2008.
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Registered: 11-14-2006
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 4:57pm

He has been at same job for a few years now. He makes ok money. He works lots of hours to make more $ to get ahead.


The felony is not keeping him from getting a good job since he already has one. ALthough he could get a job closer to where we live if he had a high school diploma. He is looking into that though.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 5:19pm
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Registered: 02-07-2008
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 3:49pm

HI Elfing,


I know what it's like to be in a complicated situation!!


If I had to be direct to your ending ? - I'd say no love is not enough.

KLM
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Registered: 11-14-2006
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 9:09am

Yes - We have resolved trust issues. It was very difficult to live over an hour apart. I had never been in a long distance relationship. In addition, I knew he was surrounded by bad influence and his family was no help. With lots of talking and him proving he wants to be with me and on a good path - all is well now. I would NOT have let him move in if I did not completely and totally trust him. I guess that is why it took almost a year and a half for me to let him

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 9:24am

Yes - I agree completely. Love doesn't last forever on it's own. I know that it takes work on both parts to make it last. We are both willing to do that. NO matter what relationship I am in...it will take work. We both understand that.


He knows that if we do get engaged that I will not be ready to actually get married for a couple years. He thinks that is fine. In addition, we do currently keep our finances separate. I have a house that I need to pay for and take care of. He helps with the cost of food

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Registered: 02-07-2008
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 12:28pm

Sounds like you both have this all under control.

KLM