Man I love has bad PAST
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Man I love has bad PAST
| Thu, 08-07-2008 - 3:29pm |
I was married right after college. I've had a simple sort of a storybook life. I had a good childhood, went to college, met my husband, got a great job, built a NEW house at age 23.

Hi elfling,
All your questions about the future and what people think will make you crazy. It keeps you out of the moment.
It seems, based on what you posted, that he has come a long way from his troubled childhood and adversities.
You mentioned concern about your image and what people would think if they knew about his past.
He has been at same job for a few years now. He makes ok money. He works lots of hours to make more $ to get ahead.
The felony is not keeping him from getting a good job since he already has one. ALthough he could get a job closer to where we live if he had a high school diploma. He is looking into that though.
HI Elfing,
I know what it's like to be in a complicated situation!!
If I had to be direct to your ending ? - I'd say no love is not enough.
Yes - We have resolved trust issues. It was very difficult to live over an hour apart. I had never been in a long distance relationship. In addition, I knew he was surrounded by bad influence and his family was no help. With lots of talking and him proving he wants to be with me and on a good path - all is well now. I would NOT have let him move in if I did not completely and totally trust him. I guess that is why it took almost a year and a half for me to let him
Yes - I agree completely. Love doesn't last forever on it's own. I know that it takes work on both parts to make it last. We are both willing to do that. NO matter what relationship I am in...it will take work. We both understand that.
He knows that if we do get engaged that I will not be ready to actually get married for a couple years. He thinks that is fine. In addition, we do currently keep our finances separate. I have a house that I need to pay for and take care of. He helps with the cost of food
Sounds like you both have this all under control.