A Man in need of Help

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Registered: 08-25-2007
A Man in need of Help
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Sat, 08-25-2007 - 11:38pm

I am a male seeking advice on what to do about the relationship I am not having with my wife. She is always angry with me, she insults me often and on a regular basic. I'm told I am too stupid for her and she feels like I am the wrong man for her. She will not forgive me for waking her from sleeping the way that I do to have sex, she feels that I don't respect her nor do I care about how she feels. We don't hug or kiss, the affections come from me 90 percent of the time. She has no job and she saids that she won't leave because she has no where to go. If I want her out then I will have to seek eviction papers from the court. I love her and I really don't want her to go, but I can't keep living like this, there is no sex, no love and lots of anger coming from her. I now feel as if I am being taken advantage of and I don't want to become as bitter as she is. She has yet to say she is leaving,I have been asked why should she, when she doesn't have to work, have sex with me and still be able to get to drive a new car, spend the money I make and have a brand new house to live in. I pay ALL the bills and she spends all the extra money clubing and buying herself clothes. I don't fault her for the way she feels, I just want her to make a decision about how to deal with us because if she can't then one of us has got to go. I don't fool around on her, I work 12 to 14 hours a day and the only thing I want is to feel that she love and appreciates the effort I put into what I do to keep us living as best that we can. Is there anyone out there that can explain to me what should be going on here. I can tell all that I know, however it will take a long time to do it here and I don't want to bore you totally with my problem.

HELP ME I AM SINKING FAST AND DEATH IS KNOCKING AT MY DOOR

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Registered: 08-25-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 2:34pm
I am indeed a very confused man right. She has yet to say that she is leaving, however she constantly reminds me of how stupid and disrepectful I am as well as how all other guys pay her more attention and know more about who she is than I do. I need to tell them that they don't know her as well as I do and until they walk in my shoes they never will. Sometimes I think she feels as if I should be able to fix it without her having to do anything to help. I am trying to understand what she wants, do she want to break up or work it out? Her abusive mouth is the hardest thing for me to take and I consider myself to pretty understanding about the way she feels. I really don't want to be without her, but I know something has to be done.

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