man's fear of marriage
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man's fear of marriage
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 9:54pm |
I have been dating a man for 2 years. In the beginning he initiated the talk of marriage and children, and I was so relieved to find someone who felt the same way I did. Now, 2 years later, he is not interested in marriage, but maybe interested in having children. He does talk about the future with me in it, but can someone help me understand why men seem so fearful of marriage? I think by now he should know if I'm the one or not (since I used to be!) and nothing has really changed. He is in his 40s and I am in my 30s, and I do not want to delay having children much longer. Any advice?

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Carrie
All men are not afraid of marriage, but some are. Some cannot committ to a woman or fear the responsibility of taking on a family. I do not know about this particular man, because I do not know him. And you may not either. More than that, it sounds as though he does not know himself. However, if you do want to have a family, and want the committment and support to go with it, it doesn't sound as though he's for you. You have already spent enough time with him for him to be in a position to committ to marriage, if that is what you want. If he doesn't, and you want the best for yourself, it's time to say good-bye. You're not going to change him. He's mislead you, by saying one thing and then taking it away. I wouldn't waste anymore time with a person like this.
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