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marriage and sex
| Tue, 02-03-2004 - 9:56pm |
I am in so much pain and distress. For the last four years my husband has not ejaculated inside of me. We have one child through an unplanned pregnancy. I think that he is afraid that I will get pregnant. We both agree that in the future we want another child, just not now. I am on birth control, and have been using it for the last 3 years. I am currently on the patch. Through the years I may have made a comment or two regarding him not ejaculating inside of me but he brushed of the comment and I let him do so. Last night I mentioned to him how I feel in great detail. He admitted to his fear but did not elaborate. He refused to talk. His fear is a big turn off for me I don’t know what to do. He goes as far as when we are intimate and he has multiple orgasms he will get up and go wash of at the sink. Then return and continue. I am concerned about the lack of trust and what I see as a reduce intimacy. I feel that sexual activity is the closet two people can ever be. His fear really makes me feel uncomfortable. It also makes me feel like I am just a tool for him to get his and that I am not really giving him the pleasure. Now that I have finally told him, I am afraid that sex will become very awkward. I told him yesterday and we have yet to be intimate. We usually have an active sex life. Now that my turn off has been noted I am really afraid for my marriage. He is in the military and will be deploying soon for six months

Okay, I think you two need to approach this from another direction.
James
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i am not so sure that i understand. has he been this way ALWAYS? this sounds to me something MORE than just fear of pregnancy. there ae many many ways to avoid pregnancy (no, nothing is 100% foolproof except abstinance), and his "pulling out" is probably one of the worst "methods". and pulling out and then running to "wash off" sounds like that there is something else going on here.
I agree with the other poster that this is something that the two of you need to discuss.