Married 14 yrs and wife wants to quit!!!
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| Tue, 02-26-2008 - 11:41pm |
We have been married now for about 14yrs and my wife is now telling me that for the past 2 yrs that she has had issued with us and that she doesn’t know if she wants us to stay together. We have two beautiful children together. sex isn’t what it used to be anymore I find myself asking for it and being shot down more times ten I would like. The past 3 months we have been fighting about the problem and she just doesn’t know how to fix the issue or want to fix it. She insists that she still loves me, but I don’t know if I should believe her. I keep asking her what the problem is and what I did wrong so I can fix it and she just replies that she doesn’t know. I tried to help our problem by taking her away on a unexpected vacation but that didn’t help us much. It went well for most of the trip but ended on a bad note at the end. I confronted her about a few phone call that she has been having with a mutual guy friend and she just told me that they just talk. She also told me that she would stop talking to him. Deep inside I know what this is but she insists that she isn’t cheating on me and that the isn’t the problem.

Welcome to the board confused024,
Have you asked her to go to marriage counseling with you?
Do you have any other proof that she might be having an affair?
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Welcome to the board confused024,
Oh boy, sorry to say that her conversations with this guy are not helping your marriage. She's having an emotional affair at the very least.
Sounds as though you fear your wife is having an affair, and perhaps it is so. Certainly, you can't leave this in a gray zone, drifting about in your life, but need to have clarity about what's truly going on. It's not fair to you or to herself either to go on this way.
I suggest you go to a therapist and get clarity for yourself about your feelings, the relationship and how to take the appropriate next steps in finding out the truth and working things through. Sometimes when things are at a stalemate and you've done all you can, it is the time to reach out and get some professional guidance. Once you feel clearer and stronger you will be able to approach your wife in a way which will cut through confusion.
All the very best to you,