Married 6 mos and want out
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| Fri, 03-05-2004 - 10:53am |
Some of you have probably read my previous posting “Not only Stupid, but call a “B:. Well the saga continues…. Last Sunday, my son, age 12 asked if he could get a telephone for his room, using his own money. I said yes. On the way home from Church, we stopped to look at phones. This would need a phone jack installed. My husband was scolding us that he will put in a phone jack, but not if we both nag him to do it, otherwise he won’t. When we got home, he kept saying this again. Finally, when I couldn’t hold my tongue any longer, I said, fine, don’t do anything for us and we will never ask you to do anything for us. He then called me a bitch, within my son’s earshot, so he heard it as well.
Now, he helps out here and there, but I do the bulk of the housework. I have paid using my card cards for vacations, cell phones, etc. I bought two cars, under my name and put the down payment of over $5,000 altogether. We live in my home (acquired from my first marriage). Albeit, he does hand over his pay check for bills, but he has a lot of debt that he come into the marriage with. In fact, he has prior debt to the tune of $70,000 that I didn’t know about. Every time I ask him about, he says he is working on it.
3/3/04 Another argument. Started out about him not helping me with the wash. Then went on to the student loans. He mentioned earlier in the day that he still has not heard back from Fed Student loans as to how much he owes. As the argument went on, he came out and confessed that he did hear from them 4 days ago. That they told him he would have to pay $1100 a month. I asked him why he lied and he said he didn’t want to tell me this information until he got the payments down. He then went on to say that he could clean me out anytime. I then remarked that I was taking the car that I bought back and he couldn’t drive it anymore. Then I told him to leave, but he would not. He said if he was drunk, he would get so mad at me, he could kill me and went upstairs in the bedroom to go to bed. I came upstairs and told him to leave or I would call the police. Guess what? He called the police on me and told them I wouldn’t let him sleep. When they came, they were surprised that he called them on me. They took a statement and then left.
Although I was drinking quite a lot that night, I don’t think I deserved to have the police called on me.
Today, I receive a bouquet of lowers in my office from him!!! Now, I am seriously thinking about having him evicted, and I am contacting a lawyer. Any advice from anyone out there would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks and God Bless
Nan

Sorry you have to go through this. This man is abusive.
Carrie