Married and still in love with ex
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Married and still in love with ex
| Wed, 01-07-2004 - 11:30pm |
I dated this guy for a year and he had some jealousy problems. He didn't like any of my friends but most of them were guys. So his jealousy broke us up. And I ended up marrying one of my best friends. Which happen to be one of the guys that he was jealous over. I know now that he had all right to be as jealous as he was. After marrying my best friend he changed for the worse and wasn't at all who I thought he was. And we dated for 2 years. Now I am trying to get my ex back cause I realize so much that I done wrong and the ex was only looking out for me. I want my ex back and I know that he does not trust me at all. But I want to show him that I love him. Only he has a hard time believing anything that I say. He thinks that I was cheating on him the whole time, but I wasn't. I know I am in the wrong and I want to make it better now...I need help!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe you should walk away from both. Jumping from one relationship to another is always a bad idea.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
Please consider counseling as an option. Work on yourself esteem. Learn why you made the choices that you did so you don't repeat them.
PS. Too bad you didn't recognize your behavior with your male friends as inappropriate while you were still with your boyfriend. When your boyfriend pointed out his concerns about these friendships you dismissed his feelings as being jealous , nor were you considerate of his feelings or the impact of your male friendships on your relationship. The message you sent your boyfriend (at the time) was that the relationship with him was NOT important enough to make changes in your decisions and your behavior.
We have a talk show host here in the Los Angeles area and he always tells women (Tom's view) the male friends just waited until they get their chance with you and Dr. Laura's view that the friendships shouldn't be threatening to the Significant Other).
Edited 1/8/2004 2:07:47 PM ET by itwinflame
Carrie
Sounds like you are on the right path with doing things that are right for you...the focus on a place to live, school, career and your child. That's great. Maybe it's not time for any relationship but time for you to heal and go slow.
My best to you.
Carrie
Why not stop worrying about who and when you will be happy in love. Concentrate on your new life, your schooling and your child. Take a break and let time be on your side. Don't worry about calling him or proving anything to your ex right now. YOu can't be anything to him if you don't have a happy life without him.
Think about going to counseling to work all of this out