Married but lonely

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Married but lonely
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:01pm

I've been married for 12 years and have really been feeling lost lately. My husband and I got married young but that was my decision and I understand that. We have 2 great kids and

 
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: emry19
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:23pm

Welcome to the board emry19,


While you can't help him, fix him or save him, you are right to think about your children.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
In reply to: emry19
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:34pm

Thanks for the reply. Last year he had a bad anxiety attack and thought he was having a heart attack. He went to the ER and was told it was in fact an anxiety attack. I made him an appt with his regular Doc to follow up wit it because he woundn't. I even called and spoke with his Doc and told him the situation and he said he will talk to him. He did try to get him into counseling and to try other medication but my husband wouldn't. His response was he knows what's wrong with him so he doesn't need to go. I tried talking to him about it but he just won't have it. Your right, I do need to go for me because I'm just at a loss as to what to do next.

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: emry19
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 4:29pm
I'd like to refer you to another board with people in the same situation. Families & Mental Illness @ http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhfamschiz

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Registered: 10-24-2007
In reply to: emry19
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 5:05pm
Thank you! I will try that.
 
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: emry19
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 5:06pm

Welcome to the board emry19,


I agree with Carrie that you should go ahead and go to counseling by yourself. Too bad you couldn't just hide some medication in his food. Not exactly the right thing to do though.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: emry19
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 5:57pm

You are in a difficult situation. When a partner in a marriage has such a severe disorder, it is absolutely essential that they do everything possible to manage it, and to be as functional as they can. He really doesn't have the option of saying he won't do it, as his illness effects not only himself, but you and the children as well. You have every right to insist that he get the full

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Registered: 10-24-2007
In reply to: emry19
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 6:26pm

Thank everyone for your advice. I definitely need to work on me at this point then