Married to a narcissist

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Married to a narcissist
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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 9:47am

I don't know what to do.

My husband displays many of the characteristics of one with narcissistic personality disorder, and I'm concerned about the impact that is having on our 2 year old DD.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 9:57am

Also, we've tried counseling with two different counselors actually, to no avail.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 10:33am
Crossroadz, why did you marry this man? Why did you have a child with him? How did you end up in this situation?
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 10:35am

Narcisissistic?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 11:09am

I definitely think that it would be best for your child not to be exposed to him every day.

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 11:17am

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 12:37pm

DD was not planned...by no means did I intentionally get pregnant thinking it would repair/save the marriage somehow.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2009
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 2:14pm
Oh well,you chose to ignore the flags then but dont repeat it now.

Divorce.
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Registered: 09-06-2007
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 3:06pm
"Also, we've tried counseling with two different counselors actually, to no avail. He doesn't see it as a problem, and it's always me blowing it out of proportion or I just interpret what he's said/done incorrectly..."

I think you and your DD will be better off if you leave this man. All this time and he still doesn't see it as a problem. That to me indicates it will always be like this. Those incidents you gave us are pretty significant.

Good luck, keep us updated.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 3:08pm
Sounds like he's emotionally abusing both you and your DD. Your DD will grow up feeling "not good enough" and very insecure, and will think this is what acceptable behavior is in a boy friend or husband if she continues to see this behavior on a daily basis. Have you ever read the poem "children learn what they live"
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 4:29pm

I'm really sorry to say this but there seems to be VERY little reason to stay... Certainly there are more, and better, reasons to leave. This is a really terrible influence for your daughter.

When counseling doesn't work, you've tried all you can. He may not be a bad father all the time but I really can't see one reason to stay with this man.