Mass Confusion
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Mass Confusion
| Thu, 01-08-2004 - 2:10pm |
I have been seeing the same man for 4 years now. Even now there are no words to express how much I love him. Recently, I have been going through an emotional melt-down. I feel unattactive because I have gained weight. I'm not enormous or anything but it's enough to make me feel terrible about myself. It's effecting relationships all around me because my self-confidence is way down. I avoid confrontation with anyone because I don't want to draw any more attention to myself than I feel there is. The problem at home is that I can't tell if I feel the way I do about my relationship with my significant other because of what I've been going through emotionally, or if it's because there's really something to be worried about. Our lovemaking used to be white-hot, and now we rarely have sex at all. Being a woman, I feel it's because I'm overweight and he is disgusted by me. Once every month or so he insists on going to see friends who live out of town by himself, when I say something about it he trys to make me feel bad and says that I just don't want him to have any friends. Thats just not true. I just long for him to love and respect me like I do him. Are these just the rantings of a depressed woman or should I be worried that something else is wrong? Comments Please!

Well, as for your recent weight gain.If its making you feel unhealthy or insecure, then my all means, do someething to improve your SELF IMAGE, but do it because you want to, not because you think someone else is unhappy with the way you look. Set a personnal goal for your self and set out to acheive it.But by all means, dont live by anyone elses standards.In the meantime, work on your relationship.Dont wait till you have lost the weight you want ( I know you will), to see what the problems are in the relationship.
As for his frequent trips.I think that may be innocent fun. I do not think its because of your weight. But, if you still dont think so, ask him. Ask him why he feels like he needs to leave every month, and if he coudl make the trips less frequently.
Good luck,