Me, my boyfriend and his "family"

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Registered: 08-22-2004
Me, my boyfriend and his "family"
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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 3:04pm
Ok my boyfriend and I are inlove and he has a son that is four years old. Ussually just me and my bf hang out and on certain occasions I get to hang out with his son like when we go on vacation but My boyfriend has been friends with this girl for about 2 yrs, since before I knew him, and she has a daughter. There kids are best friends so atleast 3 times a week the four of them hang out and they do family stuff weather its going to amusment parks to just spending the day all together. I make jokes and call them "his family" sometimes he even babysits this girls kid even when he doesnt have his kid. I have never meet this girl and I never get invited to go out with all of them. I feel angry and jealous about the situation. He thinks I am being stupid about the whole thing and hes not going to take his childs best friend away. I am not asking him to! I feel like he already has a family and I am just around for his alone time without the kids and to have sex with and that it will always be like this. Should I be upset about the situation? what should I do? and should I just move on?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 4:08pm
kassiedw123...

Pianoguy thinks "moving on" is your best course of action....for 2 reasons.

1. The man has no intention of disrupting the friendship between the little girl and his son. Whether there are any feelings between him and her "mom" is anybody's guess. But you're only encouraging the possibility when you make a crack like "you act like a family!"

2. If you think that sex is the only thing keeping the relationship (with him) intact...move out and discover a man who is single, has no children and will be totally devoted to spending all his free time with you.

That was an easy one!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 4:49pm
I agree and want to add that if he saw you in his future you would meet all of the significant others in his life including his daughter and hiw friend.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 8:56am

No one wants to be second best, but to be honest, thats what it kind of sounds like he is letting you be....whats wiorse, is you have voiced your concerns(although I must say i wouldnt have gone with the "his family: thing) and he is still continuing. Which, goes to show you, he either isntr ready or oisnt willing, to have a relationship right now. I agree with piano guy and caio_gina, he has no intentions of putting an end to his "freindship" with this woman, so i would also suggest moving on to someone who doesnt have children and can concentrate on the relationship with you.