Me vs. his ex
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Me vs. his ex
| Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:13pm |
Hello everyone,
I have a question about my relationship, I guess what I want to know is where is my place in this relationship, let me explain. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7yrs. now and he is divorced with two kids, I have no kids of my own. Well recently his son joined the baseball team and as you all know with that comes going to practices and having games, well with that said, he never once invited me to watch him play or anything and now hes playing football and to that I've only been to two games and it's only because I kind of invited myself.

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Welcome to the board monkeygirlgoddess,
Do you live together? I ask because I don't understand why you would have to be invited to go to his son's game. I would think after 7 years together that it would be a given that you would go.
How old are his children?
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Welcome to the board monkeygirlgoddess,
Wow, after 7 yrs and you are still left out of holiday get togethers and the kid's sports?
Since living apart has the relationship improved?
Did your relationship start as an affair, or was he at least separated from his wife when he started seeing you?
IMO, it is appropriate for him to make arrangements with his ex for things like trick or treating.
It is not enough to have a good mind. The main thing is to use it well.-- Rene Descartes
If it helps, he didn't make these plans to be with his ex wife. He made them to be with his kid.
I think the choice is up to you whether or not you can deal with this. Honestly I don't find it to be a big deal at all. His kid will, and should, always come first - even before a seven year relationship. He made the best decision he could for the one person in his life who truly needs him. If you're committed to being with a man who has a child from a previous marriage then you HAVE to learn to get along with his ex and not feel slighted if he makes a decision for his kid and not for you.
About you not being invited... I think he's right. Judging just from your post, can you honestly say you would have felt comfortable? I doubt it.
Really I do understand the way you feel but I think you need to take these events with your head held high.
I can see both point of views here.
Hello everyone,
To answer some of your questions, yes I do get along with his children very well, eventhough they're both mamas boys they still
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