meeting the family

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Registered: 01-30-2008
meeting the family
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Sat, 05-03-2008 - 10:17am

i dated my girlfriend for almost 6 months. one day she said she wanted a break. i called her a week later, told her how much i cared about her and how i wanted her forever. she replied by saying 'i dont feel the same way about you, that you do about me, and thats not fair to you.'

i tired to contact her many times over the next few weeks, but she refused. finally, after about a month, i texted her asking if there was anything i could have done differently, and she said 'no, there was nothing you could have done, i just didnt feel the same way.'

im not sure if this was an issue, but i still hadnt introduced her to my family yet. she would hint at meeting them, but never directly asked.

from what she said, would this be something she would end it over? if it was an issue, would she talk to me about it first.

were both 25. she was a girl who was looking to settle down, and she knew i was as well. i had asked her to move in with me, and she only said 'maybe'.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 11:41am
You need to listen to her words and not overanalyze this. I know you are trying to find a specific answer but you just weren't the one for her. Please move on.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 1:27pm

It's not really helpful to sit there and wonder about each detail that took place. She told you twice that she just didn't feel the same way as you did. In this case it's best to take her at her word. If she wanted to work things through, or if she had other feelings and wanted to work on it, she would have let you know. Even if this was the reason she called it off, (which seems unlikely), unless she's willing to deal with it, to let you know and work it through, there's no way to go forward.


I'm sorry you went through this painful experience. Right now, it's best to brush youself off and move on. I'm sure there's someone out there who will care for you as much as you do about them.


Best wishes,