Men dumping women

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Men dumping women
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 1:51am
Why is it harder on a women when she gets dumped? I noticed most women like to do the dumping, but how hard is it on a women, when she gets dumped? Why does she still hang around after she's been dumped?

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Registered: 05-23-2004
In reply to: djrazr
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 5:11am
I have never understood this phenomenon myself. Never. Why in the world do people hang around after it is obvious that the other partner does not want them? Personally, I would be happy if someone who was not fulfilled, broke things off, to find someone that is a better match. What I can not stand, is a guy who is unhappy, but they do not have the balls to go out on their own, so they stay and complain to their current partner.

But to answer your question about women, I think on the surface, we may appear more emotional, but in reality, I guess, not accepting being dumped, is the normal stage of the break up process, and eventually they move on. They say that women fall out of love, and are more resilient after divorces, than men are, and go on to have more fulfilling lives. Where as men, may act standoffish, but there are more instances where they will carry around a torch for someone for ever, and never quite get over it.

I do not know.

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Registered: 05-05-2004
In reply to: djrazr
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 11:24am
I think it's because a lot of women get into relationships and let their self esteem get wrapped up in their man. When men get dumped, they generally see it as "that ONE woman didn't want me." They then move on to other women who do. But when a lot of women get dumped, they mistakenly see it as "if he doesn't want me, I must not be desirable to MEN." It doesn't help that there's a stereotype that a man will sleep with anything that will let him. Imagine if it was believed that women would get with any man that offered her a chance, and you being a man, offered yourself and one of these desperate, man hungry women actually said no? Your ego would be crushed! It would be like being the last man on earth and you still couldn't get any play. LOL...see where I'm going with this?

I don't know where this idea came from but unfortunately, too many girls don't understand that new men come around as often as new women do. Chris Rock had a great line in his latest comedy show..."Men see a great girl and think 'Wow, I've gotta get me a girl like her'...Women see a great guy and say 'I've gotta get THAT man...'"

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: djrazr
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 12:55pm
I think it's always easier to be the one doing the dumping rather than the one being dumped - regarless of gender. No one likes rejection. As for hanging around after the break up, I don't know that women are any more prone to this than men. I have known plenty of men who have tried to get their ex back after a break up.