men & money.......sorry this is a long one!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
men & money.......sorry this is a long one!
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Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:48am

hello ivillagers....

let me begin by stating that i lean more towards the side of an old fashioned marriage like my parents.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2003
Tue, 02-28-2012 - 2:26pm
This is hard to hear and may not be something you are willing to do, but I would get out of this relationship as soon as you can. You will always be the one doing all the compromising. I'm not a relationship guru, just speaking from experience. Change is hard, if not nearly impossible sometimes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:22am

After reading all the replies you've had, and finding your post from November (thank you Geo, I recognized the name too, but couldn't find it) I'm just going answer the questions you asked in your last paragraph.

Was it selfish of you to take all this time off when you could have had the opportunity to get "us" ahead?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 10:12am

to izzyandalexsmommy........

you completely hear where i'm coming from!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:52pm

I see it very simply.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:47pm

>>and he is back tracking and not offering her the same support he once sought from her. Granted she could have started seeking employment sooner. BUT, that is not the point.<<

To me, it IS the point.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:26pm
true.blue.strine wrote:

>>then why should i support him while he still had a job and wanted me give to him that reassurance within a week of losing my job <<

I don't know what you're referring to.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 10:46pm

>>then why should i support him while he still had a job and wanted me give to him that reassurance within a week of losing my job <<

I don't know what you're referring to.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 8:50pm
musiclover12 wrote:

I think it's interesting that as a high earning woman you want to be a SAHM--I'm not saying it's wrong, by the way--if you did marry this guy he'd certainly have enough money to support you & a family on his income alone.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 6:52pm

I think it's interesting that as a high earning woman you want to be a SAHM--I'm not saying it's wrong, by the way--if you did marry this guy he'd certainly have enough money to support you & a family on his income alone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 6:19pm
truebluestrine......
Why should he support you when you have chosen to squander your severance and leave looking for a new job till the last months?
ok........then why should i support him while he still had a job and wanted me give to him that reassurance within a week of losing my job ....and not knowing what my severance package was going to be?

this is supposed to be a partnership where we cover each other's backs. i'll do what i have to for him and i've expressed that. is wanting to hear the same in return mean that .... i'll have a very difficult time finding a man who holds the same values as you. I suggest you updates some of your attitudes or resign yourself to not getting your needs met. ?

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