men & money.......sorry this is a long one!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
men & money.......sorry this is a long one!
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Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:48am

hello ivillagers....

let me begin by stating that i lean more towards the side of an old fashioned marriage like my parents.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 5:36pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 6:02pm

i really appreciate all the feedback.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 6:10pm
truebluestrine....i suggested opening a joint account at the time for that sole purpose and he didn't want to. i don't need him to do it all for me......but i do want to be a SAHM for the first few years and work part-time during that phase. i've been open and honest about that.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 6:19pm
truebluestrine......
Why should he support you when you have chosen to squander your severance and leave looking for a new job till the last months?
ok........then why should i support him while he still had a job and wanted me give to him that reassurance within a week of losing my job ....and not knowing what my severance package was going to be?

this is supposed to be a partnership where we cover each other's backs. i'll do what i have to for him and i've expressed that. is wanting to hear the same in return mean that .... i'll have a very difficult time finding a man who holds the same values as you. I suggest you updates some of your attitudes or resign yourself to not getting your needs met. ?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 6:52pm

I think it's interesting that as a high earning woman you want to be a SAHM--I'm not saying it's wrong, by the way--if you did marry this guy he'd certainly have enough money to support you & a family on his income alone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 8:50pm
musiclover12 wrote:

I think it's interesting that as a high earning woman you want to be a SAHM--I'm not saying it's wrong, by the way--if you did marry this guy he'd certainly have enough money to support you & a family on his income alone.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 10:46pm

>>then why should i support him while he still had a job and wanted me give to him that reassurance within a week of losing my job <<

I don't know what you're referring to.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:26pm
true.blue.strine wrote:

>>then why should i support him while he still had a job and wanted me give to him that reassurance within a week of losing my job <<

I don't know what you're referring to.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:47pm

>>and he is back tracking and not offering her the same support he once sought from her. Granted she could have started seeking employment sooner. BUT, that is not the point.<<

To me, it IS the point.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 11:52pm

I see it very simply.