Men Uninterested or just confused?
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| Fri, 09-14-2007 - 4:07pm |
OKay I;m in a bit of a fork in the road right now.
I've been with or was with my Fiance`/ Boyfriend for nearly a year and a half, I moved in and then had to move out because of school. Two days after I move out he wants to end the relationship because he can't concentrate in school at all or at work and his school is suffering already. I agreed that we should take a break so he could relax and get himself back onto track.
Well soon he starts acting like I'm a friend, tells me he doesn't love me like he used to and has no intentions of any relationships at all for a really long time. But he still wants to talk to me and hang out. I spent the next 2 weeks trying to get out of him what went wrong, there just didn't seem to be a real
A few days ago I finally got the real reason out of him after a bit of crying and yelling. Apparentlly because of his lack in concentration he really wants to do well in school this year and get through it all. I can understand that and he really wants to get his future on it's way with planning for college and not having to worry about me all the time when he goes out with his buddy.
Understandable, but maybe that's just me. I've been in love with this guy for 3 years and he's also like my best friend. He said he would consider getting back together with me. But I'm not exactly sure if he'll go through with it. I hope he does.
I'm Wiccan and I've had 5 professional readings all of which have given me the same answers; He's my soulmate and whoever I marry I will be with for the rest of my life. I'm aware I may not spend my life wiht him, but it's a nice wish isn't it?
My big problem is when I talk to him on the phone he treats me nearly any differently other than he doesn't repeat "I love you" on the phone every 5 minutes. Now it's just at the end of our call and he usually puts on the cutesy

Welcome to the board trombley89,
I think the reason nothing has really changed between the two of you is because you are still in contact with each other often. I think you should end contact with him for a while so both of you have a chance to figure out what you really want. If you continue doing what you are doing now, I don't see anything changing. Maybe if he thinks he will really lose then he will be able to tell you what he really wants.
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Let me take a guess. When everything is fine and you have nothing to complain about and you're both happy, he's fine. But if he's feeling doubts then your entire relationship is at stake. Am I right?
One thing about men is that they don't create conflict with women like that unless they really, really mean it. Psychic readings aside, you have to deal with the here-and-now and what he's telling you and showing you. If he's saying something like that you absolutely need to take him seriously and attempt to fix the problem.
Ask him to attend premarital counseling with you. If he won't go, then you should leave him indefinitely. If he has any intention of getting his feelings with you back to where they were, then he will be willing to do ANYTHING IN HIS POWER for you. Otherwise you will realize that you are with a man who will only stick around if things are going well and is concerned only with taking the easy route through everything. Relationships are not always easy and if you are going to work then he HAS to be able to talk to you. Macho guy stuff is normal and acceptable when out with guys and in public or whatever, but if he can't lose that facade when he's with you - the one person to whom he should have a GENUINE relationship and be able to share his feelings - then what do you really have with him?
Welcome to the board trombley89,
I'm going to start with saying that you have already been given excellent advice and I hope you think about what you've read.
I wanted to touch on your readings.... I'm a firm believer in karma and how it effects our lives.