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| Thu, 08-19-2004 - 5:44pm |
We have been moving very slow. Both of us are new to long term relationships and we are both in our 30's. I haven't been in a long term relationship in ten years and he's never been in one. Both of us haven't dated much either. He's a bit shy and reserved but on our last date he wanted to give me "the kiss" after our date but I didn't let myself get fully into it because I got a little confused by some of his actions that night and pulled away a little. I think I may have confused him by reacting to the kiss.
It's been a sweet relationship. So far, at the end of our dates we kiss each other on the cheeks or a peck on the lips and/or a hug. I have to admit that I have been the one holding back on the physical part. He has made advances at the end of our dates but I get nervous and hold back at times. I would like to move our relationship to the next level(not sex) and see if this is going to be a long term serious relationship. We have been seeing each other twice a week since our first month dating and it has been very nice.
Now I am just waiting here for a response from him. I don't know what he thinks now. Should I call him and talk to him about it or should I just leave it alone and wait for him to call and bring it up? I wrote him yesterday and our last date was the night before. I don't know if I am making a big deal about this. I really like this guy. I like him more as I am get to know him better.
Please advise and thanks in advance for reading and your insights.

After 11 weeks, I think it was time someone
Pianoguy likes your name! And the sentiments connected with it are something almost all ivillagers want in a relationship.
How about making a quick trip to your local greeting card store...and picking out a nice snail mail friendship card? Normally...Pianoguy wouldn't suggest a mushy card, but in your situation...he's making an exception! Look for a card that has a woman "puckering her lips together" on the front of the card....and include a short note inside that says:
I'M WAITING FOR THAT KISS FROM YOU!"
If you truly like the man and wish the relationship to go a bit further, take my suggestion. If you're afraid that one kiss might lead to something that'll make you uncomfortable...bake the man a plate of cookies (MEN LOVE IT WHEN A WOMAN GOES TO THE TROUBLE TO BAKE SOMETHING NICE)! Hand deliver the cookies to his home or office, but don't hang out waiting to see him!
If the gentleman realizes that you went "the extra mile"...and his feelings are as strong for you, as yours seem to be for him...HE'LL CALL YOU WITHIN 24 HOURS!
Best of luck and warm thoughts from...
Pianoguy