Midlife crisis and divorce

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Registered: 09-01-2008
Midlife crisis and divorce
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Mon, 09-01-2008 - 9:56pm

Husband of 33 years walked out suddenly a month ago.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:47pm

Clearly, he is in the midst of a painful mid-life crisis, and more than that, as you say. It sounds as though he has many feelings which are overwhelming to him and he wants to take a time out...he is breaking with all that is familiar right now, perhaps in his mind, to start anew. Possibly this wish has been on the back burner, escalating slowly. We don't know.


Of course you cannot force him to do anything. He has gone to a doctor, and that is good. The rest is his decision, no matter how shocking and abrupt this may seem. It seems clear that he does need space right now, so it's probably best not to push him. Let him know you love him, that you are there for him, and that is all you can do. You also need to take care of yourself now, and perhaps it would be a good idea to get some of your own counseling to work out the feelings and shock I am sure you are going through.


All best wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 1:24pm

Welcome to the board destroyednsad,


Sorry you