A miser? Or just selfish?
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A miser? Or just selfish?
| Wed, 09-03-2008 - 11:46am |
Hello,
I have an embarassing problem I can't turn anywhere else for help.
My boyfriend of almost four years appears to have extreme problems with spending any money at all on me.

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Happy Birthday!!!
Here's the thing about the gift he gave you, he's true to form.
<< I was referring specifically to splitting the check--telling him exactly why you're doing it as opposed to simply requesting separate checks without explaining as has been suggested by other posters. >>
Actually, I'm the only poster who specifically suggested requesting separate checks (although kimbernee said "go dutch").
You'll also note that I DID tell her to tell him exactly what she was doing (in general) with her whole approach to the relationship.
We're on the same page regarding this.
Guy,
I think that most posters were (wisely) suggesting that I be direct with him.
The problem is....I have been.
Carrie,
Yes!
Ahhh..he is different with othe people.
I really think that's the wrong question to be focusing on because you'll never have an answer and you'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out.
The question you need to answer, FOR YOURSELF, is, given that *THIS IS HOW HE IS* in the context of your relationship, can I live with it and be happy in this relationship?
Re being direct with him:
Happy Birthday!!!
<< The problem is....I have been.
Starbuck,
Is your name because you like coffee?
Second answer (after some gentle probing):
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