missing husband

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Registered: 05-20-2004
missing husband
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 6:44pm
My husband and I have had an awful start to the year. His Mum died the beginning of the year then my nephew died in February and two days later I had a miscarriage! My husband had recently moved to England from the u.s. and was finding it hard to deal with everything so decided to go back to America for 5 weeks, when he was due to come home he said that he needed more time to sort himself out! He is now back working on his old job (he says he may as well be earning money while hes away)I can`t contact him as he an otr driver, I have to wait for him to contact me. The things is I`m out of my head with worry, I haven`t had time to grieve for my nephew or my our baby as I was preocupied with my husband problems and now I`m worried sick about whats happening in my relationship with my husband, I have tried so hard to be strong, its what everyone expects from me, even my husband, as thats how I usually am, but all I can do is cry! I feel like he has deserted me, I have two children from a previous marriage who love him to bits and he them, they were heartbroken when I told them he wasn`t coming back on the day he was supposed to.He says he loves me and everything will be ok, when hes told me this before it always has been, so why do I feel like I do? How can I deal with all this pressure as I feel like I could quite easily just jump into a huge black whole and never come out!
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: kimmiesp
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 2:28am

oh my gosh this is TERRIBLE! first of all, my sincere condolences for all your losses.


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Registered: 05-20-2004
In reply to: kimmiesp
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 2:38am
Thankyou for repying to my message. What you have said is really what I was thinking, I just needed someone elses point of few. I realise things are onesided at the moment, to be fair he did say that he would get e-mail sorted and get a calling card when he gets his first pay check, I just have to be patient on that score I think!

I`ve never loved anyone the way in which I love my husband so I don`t want to do anything rash and risk losing him.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: kimmiesp
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 7:42am
hugs again! do what you think is best, but please take care of yourself. even tho i hope that things work out for you and your marriage - please be careful, becaue you need to protect yourselfi in case things don't work out .
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Registered: 05-20-2004
In reply to: kimmiesp
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 11:06am
Thankyou so much for your concern, I have a large family around me yet it takes coming on here to have someone listen to me, once again thankyou!

No-one has ever asked me how I feel about losing my baby or my nephew which I think is one thing that hurts apart from my husband going away. I`m trying very hard to feel positive about my husband, I know he loves me so I try hard to think of the things he has said to me lately about always loving me etc. I feel deep in my heart that he will be in touch soon, he has to, hes the love of my life!

Anyway, thanks again for listening to me sk1960, I really appreciate it.