Missing my B/F like crazy. So sad

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Registered: 05-04-2004
Missing my B/F like crazy. So sad
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Mon, 07-19-2004 - 3:40pm
My boyfriend went on a trip far away about 10 hours ahead of US. We live in CA but anyways he usually goes on trip to visit his relatives and the last time he was there he used to call me everyday, and write me on the messanger all the time or emails. Well this time he has called but rarely except when he stoped at NY because the plane makes a stop before heading to its destine. Everytime we talk we sounds same but he doesn't say that much i miss you or I love you since i am so used to that. He does tells me he loves me at the end of the conversation. We didn't speak for 2 days and i called in the morning and he said hi baby and i said how come you don't call me and he said he is very busy going here and there plus he is using his dad's cell phone. I told him how come the last time you were calling me all the time or writing me. He said oh because it was winter time and there wasn;t much to do and on summer there are somanny thing my family member and i can do. I said ok but please just let me know how you are doing. So he said sure baby i will do that and i mean he has been calling me but he doesn't write me like before. I understand his mom doesn;t have a Comp but the last time he went to a public one to just talk to me. I just feel very sensitive and i am scared that he doesn;t miss me. He did wrote me those 2 dyas we didn't talk and told me nice things but still i feel left out. Is this normal and i am making a big deal? or he just doesn't miss me like I do. Anyway he went there for a month and 1/2. I feel very sad and desesperate. Please advice me something. I will apreciate it. Thanks.
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Registered: 06-18-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 6:03pm
ok, wait he has been gone for a long time and rarely communicates at all???? How long have the two of you been together, if long then something is wrong....if short then you have "not much" to worry about. 1) Guys often pull away from the "oh so in love stage" because thats what they do, its natural for them especaially if they are affraid of intmacy. Is he not calling because he needs his space? maybe but maybe not. He found time to communitcate before so why isn't it a priority now??? What changed? Has he ever cheated??? Because that doesn't sound natural to go visit family "WITHOUT" your girlfriend!!! Let me say that no girl should be her boyfriends last resort if he is bored reguardless of the season, that isn't right for him to only act affectionate when he is away because there is not much to do. That is redicilous. Now either he is not that bright to say something that cruel or he doesn't really care. 2) What you need to do is occupy your time with things that don't include him. He isn't finding it hard to do that so you shouldn't either. Dont wait by the phone, don't wait by the computer, and deffinately don't be sad over it becuase you seem to be the only person in the realtionship who is. Consider all possibilities and dont be so sad. It is okay to miss him but don't let it get in the way of you enjoying life. Ok sweetie, have fun.

-Janelle