momma's boy causing relationship to end
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| Sun, 12-02-2007 - 9:31pm |
Hi all, Im am at my wits end with my boyfriend and as I was looking for free couples therapy in my area I stumbled across this website. I'll try to give the short version of my story as its been other incidents that has led to my cureent break down. My boyfriend is a momma's boy in every sense of the word, I used to tease him about but since we have moved in together (almost 3 mos) it has really sunk it and is driving me crazy. My FMIL is a wonderful woman but she doesnt know her limits and this is because my boyfriend feels she shouldnt have any. She's like the mother from "Everyone loves Raymond" and my boyfriend is like Raymond in how he lets her do whatever she wants. She lives about 30 mins away and always comes over sometimes late nights and spends the night. She'll cook dinner when noone has asked (I know, so what) but it just annoys me. My boyfriend just tells me

Oh boy.
"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."
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Welcome to the board sleeplessinny,
I have to say in my opinion it is weird that she would spend the night with the two of you. Is she asked to stay or does she just do it?
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He doesnt want me to talk to her because he says that it has nothing to do with her because he invites her. I will try the idea you gave about going to visit her and see what happens. She has spent the night every time she has come except twice, its been every 2 weeks for the past 2 mos. My mom has never even stayed here and she lives furthur. His things is he's a family person and like his family around him but its his mom, aunt and niece that always comes together. I just hope we can come to some agreement because he doesnt seem like he's going to give in, he just gets mad and says he'll just go over there whenever he wants to see her. Its just that thats not the issue and I would love to visit them as well but we have to compromise. Thank you so much!
'this is because my boyfriend feels she shouldnt have any. '
Then this is the reason for your stress. Unless the two of you can lay out a plan and set visiting hours and days for her and stick to them this won't change. Have you ever spoken calmly (not bitched) to him about how this makes you feel?
Yes I have talked calmly with him and even wrote him a letter, he said he understood and all the other right things he should have said. Then 2 weeks went by and everything was fine until they said they wanted to come, then we were back to square one