Money and Relationships

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Registered: 07-02-2007
Money and Relationships
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Mon, 07-02-2007 - 10:54am

I will try not to tant my description of what is going on........... but here goes
I have been seeing this man (51) since the end of January 2007...We have seen each other every day since day one except when he went out of town for 3 weeks.......

Here is my delema....and I'm pretty sure I know the answer but I've been doubting myself alot lately....
His car broke down the day of our first date....no big deal....I went to pick him up......

I was picking him up in the morning and taking him to work.....no big deal since it was on the way ..... but he was never ready when I got there which in turn made me a little late for work........ and again no big deal.... We are very flexable here at my job....

A few months into the relationship he lost his job...........I let him borrow my car to persue a new job... which never happened until he got back from his 3 week trip.......

Bottom line......... he rarely gives me money for gas........and his new job starts at 10am and mine at 8.... so he uses the car.........and picks me up at the end of the day....

How do I tell him.........NO MORE..... but in a tackful way.... to where it's not turned back on me..............Or maybe the questions should be how to I get OUT of this relationships without feeling guility by leaving him high and dry with no ride to his regular job and his singing job on the weekends.............
HELP...... or just slap me upside the head......

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 1:24pm

Welcome to the halo3960,


If you really want out of the relationship, just simply tell him that it isn't working for you anymore. You have nothing to feel quilty about. He is 51 years old and needs to learn to be responsible for himself. There is no reason that in six months time he couldn't have gotten another car or fixed his old one.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 8:45pm

>>Or maybe the questions should be how to I get OUT of this relationships without feeling guility by leaving him high and dry with no ride to his regular job and his singing job on the weekends<<

Halo, is this what your gut feeling is really telling you? If so, don't feel guilty about leaving him with no transport. Is it your fault that he hasn't had his car fixed? No, it's not! You have nothing to feel guilty over.

I remember feeling guilty when I left my first husband. He could not iron his clothes or do some other domestic duties. By a friend reminded me that it had been his choice to not learn these things.

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